Each year I take on 5 people to personally coach and whatever their dream is for their life, I guide them to achieving it. People ask me all the time, “So what is your success rate?” In the eight years I have been Guiding people through my One On One (Camel Tour) of my Mentoring Program, I have only had two people not reach their dream. During our journey it became apparent to them what they were calling a dream was actually a fantasy. So, we had to redesign their journey, reframe their thinking and move in a different direction.
The most challenging part of my time with these people is the first four or five months when I am having to help them understand the meaning of and the importance to PACE.
This is one of the most misunderstood aspects of personal improvement. The pace I am talking about is not physical movement, but mental and emotional control. What many don’t understand is either your mind or your emotions are controlling each day of your life. If your mind is controlling, you have the clarity to see “what is,” design a process for the day and move forward with a sense of achievement. If your emotions are in control, you find yourself wrestling with the events of the day, frustrated by what is happening and ending your day feeling you have accomplished very little.
So, why is PACE such a challenge for intelligent, driven people to grasp? Four challenges:
1. Procrastination creates the accumulation of clutter. Hey anything you
Start, but don’t finish, results in emotional residue that affects your creativeness. Creative people have a real challenge slowing down to complete what they start; their mind is always racing to get to the next great victory.
2. A need to achieve and prove their self is constantly pushing them. The majority of driven people are driven by their need to prove self. Nothing is ever good enough; everything must be done with perfection; they are not good at delegating, because they don’t trust most of the people in their life, and besides most people won’t do it to their standards.
3. Communication is not their strong suit. Creative, driven people, are better at having internal conversations than they are having the patience to listen to people ramble. These driven people are good at thinking on their feet and once they have processed the situation, they are ready to move on. To sit and continue a conversation they have completed is not their strong suit. They can also have multi conversations running in their head at one time and leave others wondering what they are talking about.
4. Emotions are all over the place. It is challenging for them to stay focused; they get bored very easily, withdraw, react and leave things unfinished. All this does is create more emotional clutter for them to deal with.
How do I slow them down?
1. Teach them the meaning of Persistent Consistency
2. Address their Emotional Reactive Behavior
3. Teach them the meaning of Consistent Persistency
4. Expand and Expound upon the scope of their dream
So What Do You Think?
